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How to Live a Magical Life

Last night the sunset was special.

My wife and I have made a ritual of going out on the porch about 15 minutes before sunset and watching the sun descend over the Mingus Mountains. When the sun is blocked from view, colors erupt in the sky. Each sunset is unique. The cloud cover is different. The humidity is different. The amount of dust in the air is different. And every sunset evolves, starting with anything from a bright yellow to orange, transferring colors to clouds spreading from the area closest to the hot spot to the far horizon over the mountains of Sedona. (click images to enlarge)

But last night was special. Instead of the primary and secondary colors of reds, oranges, yellows, and blues, the sky was filled with pastels: pinks, violets, and pale yellows. The colors filled the sky from horizon to horizon, our vision limited only by the house wall that supports our perch above the trees. The pastels faded abruptly and we thought the show was over, but new colors emerged: rusty brown siennas and umbers. These colors spread highlighting the cloud textures undulating in waves created by thermal currents. The rusty brown colors stayed with us an hour or more and was joined by a sliver of moon whose dark side was defined by a faint glow. Then Venus appeared, then Mars, forming a gentle arc of a line. All this was accented by a high flying jet liner that navigated between the moon and Venus, its vapor tail still catching the direct sun and glowing Highlighter pink.

This is what Living a Magical Life is all about for Julie and me. When we moved to Arizona, we set the intention that the house we could afford would sit amongst beauty. Once set, the intention evolved so what we got was not our original intention—it was better!

You can live a Magical Life like ours as well, one created by your definition of magic. You can create a life where everything and everyone acts synchronistically, to your benefit, coming together with Disneyesce precision. It takes three steps:

  1. You imagine what a Magical Life would look like to you.
  2. You decide that you will actually live this Magical Life. (You set your intention.)
  3. You observe how you are already living a Magical Life.

Now I know some of you are thinking, “It’s easy for you. You live in a house above the trees with a sunset over the Mingus Mountains. It is easy to live a Magical Life when you live like that.”

Across the golf course from me is a row of condominiums. One young couple comes out from time to time, hold each other, and watch the sunset, but the rest of the condos glow from episodes of cop shows, newscasts, and bachelorettes getting married to people they have never met. To live a Magical Life you have to engage with it. Some people spend an entire lifetime building their dream, only to do what they have always done.

From right now, from where you are, you can move into your Magical Life. But you have to take the time to smell the jasmine when you take the dog out. You have to listen to the songs of the mockingbird, the finches, and the cardinals that blend together in a morning opus. You have to bask in the droning sea of crickets rubbing their legs together to attract their lovers in the cool of the night.

You just have to do the three steps and watch it evolve.

So the question is: Are you ready to live your Magical Life?

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Chip’s Sandbox

Sitting on the porch is something you can do year round in Arizona. It’s how I start my day. I drink my morning coffee, maybe smoke my pipe, and I look for what feels better for me to do that day. In the summer, I sit in the shade and look across Russel Wash at the golf course and the mountains of Sedona. In the winter, I see my front yard and the hill that marks the border of the Coconino National Forest. My front yard is on the plain side. It looks like this: (click photos to enlarge)

Most of this winter, I’ve been imagining what I want my front yard to look like. Across the street, my neighbor had built a garden he had terraced with rock walls and I secretly coveted his creation. So I set about imagining what my yard could look like. And I came up with a plan. Not far from here is Tuzigoot National Monument. It is a city complex in ruins, that well, looks like a series of tumble-down rock walls. I thought I would make sort of a replica called Tsuziquoot, and add plants and fun features that stayed with in the ancient ruins theme.

And then I realized that I had all the materials I needed to build it, for free, within a couple blocks of my house. I could dig the stones out of the wash, get fill dirt from where dozers had pushed the dirt off the road after the monsoon flooding, and get compost fertilizer from the local horse ranches. So last week I got started building my dream. Here is the first batch of rocks I gathered to start the project.

Running parallel to this I have had a dream to build a Law of Attraction community, where people could learn metaphysical principles, get help creating their dreams, and just have a fun place to meet. It would have a blog and a forum, and I would support it by doing what I love to do, writing and answering Law of Attraction questions. And like the wall, I found that I had all the things I needed to put this together for free. I have already written several books/eBooks, and the software I needed for the community was all available through open source.

However, the idea of this community became complicated by the fact that I was running out of money. The moving company that moved our stuff across county ended up charging us 3 times their estimate, and the bank selling us our house dragged its feet until we had to rent a hotel, and put our furniture into long-term storage. The cushion my wife and I had built into our moving plans was suddenly gone. So now, it seemed, building my community was needed to bring money into our house for stuff like food.

It is funny how the idea of money can change the nature of things..

So for the last two months, I have been laying the foundation for this new community. I programmed the forum. Cleaned up some of my books and re-offered them for sale. And I finished my first full-length book, The Whole Banana: Law of Attraction on the Rocks with a Twist—at least as far as I could. I need to come up with $2000 to get it edited.

The thing is, all of these tasks were fun at the time I did them. I was following my intuition compass. I was doing what felt better in the moment. Oh sure, I had frustrating times, like when I tried to format my forum during the Mercury Retrograde—whatever that is. But for the most part, things just flowed naturally in a create flow. Still, I launched my new and improved community, and only a handful of people came.

So today, I was sitting on my porch looking at what Julie calls Chip’s Sandbox. I have put several days work into it and all I had to show for it was a short low section of wall. But then I realized that most of the work I had done was in setting the foundation stones. These are the stones at the base of the wall that support the wall. They have to be dug in and set straight so that wall doesn’t crumble or wander all over the place. These rocks are the hardest to install, yet you see very little of them if any. The easy part is stacking the rocks on top of the foundation. It is a just matter of letting go and expecting the right size and shape of rock to be there.

And then I realized that I have already set the foundation stones for my community. So now my job is to let go and allow the right people to come and enjoy my site. The right people will come and get the ball rolling. The right people will come and start discussions on my forum. The right people will ask questions for my blog. And a certain number of these people will even book coaching sessions simply because it will be the path of least resistance for them.

And all I have to do is play in my sandboxes.

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What do I want to do now?

Hi Chip!

I love the principle of doing what feels good / doing what feels like relief a lot. When I first heard about this last year I thought “YES! This is how I want to live my life from now on!”.

However it doesn’t seem to work for me as I had hoped. Regularly I get into situations where I got free time and want to decide what to do next. I ask myself the question “What would feel good or feel like relief now?” – And then the answer is just blank.

In these situations I just don’t know what I would really want to do with my time. So I feel as if I only have two options: To do nothing and be super bored, or to distract myself (kill time) with something that feels okay to do but that doesn’t really excite me much. I always do the latter because the idea of doing nothing/being bored just feels worse…

It is frustrating to me because I know that there must be something there that I would really like to do but I am blind to seeing it and because of that I end up wasting my time with something else.

Luckily there are also moments where I do get an inspiration of something that I would like to do. But they are much rarer than I would like. So how can I receive more regular answers when I ask myself “What do I want to do now”?

This is very similar to a more common question, “what do I do when there is no inspired action to take?” The answer, of course, is to do nothing—or better yet, do something fun. The reason that you are not inspired, is that there is no action to take at that time. If you are wanting something, the Universe is rearranging itself to bring it to you. But you may not be aligned with having it right now.

Think of it like catching a bus. It does no good to go to the bus stop 5 hours before it departs. But there is a right time that will get you to the bus stop at the best time for boarding and that will give you the best bus ride experience possible. You will be inspired at the right time if you expect the inspiration.

But I don’t think that the above scenario is the case with you.

The contrast you are experiencing looks like this. You find yourself with time on your hands, but nothing excites you. The thing about contrast is that 89-91% of the time what the contrast is about is the most obvious thing.

In this case, you want something to get excited about.

But you’re not looking for the next release of Smash Brothers, you are looking for something more pervasive, something that gets you so revved up that there is no spare time. You want to dive into it the second your “have-to’s” are done.

Now this can be a “life-purpose,” an adventure, a hobby, or a quest to build and release self-replicating nanobots that “eat” GMO crops and turn them into organic fertilizer. It really doesn’t matter. It is up to you to choose what it is that will fire your rockets.

Now you probably have some sort of “sensibility” template that will create some contrast as soon as you start exploring the possibilities. “I don’t know what to do.” is the perfect avoidance mechanism to avoid this contrast.

Using an absurd example: If you really wanted to fly to the moon, you might get a lot of contrast stating that you can’t afford a rocket ship and if you could you couldn’t do the math to plot the trajectory, and you get claustrophobic in space suits. Saying “I don’t know what to do” in the quiet times avoids these stirring up these conflicting thoughts.

As does, “I really don’t have anything I’m passionate about that I want to do.”

But you do have the desire to have that kind of purpose and passion, no?

You can tell, because your vibration is at boredom. If you keep choosing what feels better, excitement and passion are coming very soon.

So you just have to choose what it is you want to do. You can’t get it wrong, but you can delay the having of it.

My suggestion is to brainstorm a list of things you might like to do. Don’t be sensible. Put down things that are exciting. Put down things you that stretch you. Put down thing you think are impossible. Feel the vibration of these things. (Hint: it is possible that the vibration of things you think are impossible can be found in things you believe you can have.)

If you are comfortable with asking your guides for help, ask them to help you think of things for your list.

Once you have decide on an endeavor or two, go back to following what feels better. Now, if nothing comes up, you know you are just waiting for a bus, and there is nothing to do right now. You can play Smash Brothers, kill time, and enjoyed it.

Contrast is likely to arise. This will point out the thoughts you hold that run counter to what you want to do. Once again, simply choose thoughts that feel better and navigating the contrast will be easy—and it gets easier the more you do it.

This is something you are ready for.

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Chip

(c)2014 Chip Engelmann

J-Wand and the Prince

Once upon a time there was princess named Princess Jennifer Allison Wandermind, but she preferred to go by J-Wand. Now J-Wand knew that everything–the Universe, God and everyone–was there to serve her. Somethings felt better and were aligned with what she wanted, while other things felt worse and ran counter to what she was wanting. It’s kinda like what her dear sweet daddy used to say. He’d put his thumbs under his suspenders and declare in his best impersonation of Mark Twain, “All men make me smile, some when they arrive, some when they leave.” J-Wand knew even contrast was there to serve her.

Prince John Bradpitt, III was pretty sure “contrast” was a setting on the flat-panel TV in the home theater. J-Wand manifested him for his butt. To answer her tough questions, she manifested a guru-ish guy named Dillon that was friend of a friend of a friend of a guy she met in an 80’s style fern-barn that served exotic herb teas.

The Prince liked to fix things. Like the time J-Wand started to manifest—heck, I don’t remember what it was—let’s just say, for example, it was the World’s Largest Collection of Elvis Impersonator Bobble-head Dolls. She imagined how it feels to be the proud owner of such a collection, and pictured them set on progressively higher crystal pedestals in the nook beside her walk-in closet. And of course the first thing that happened was contrasting thoughts started percolating in her consciousness. She began to cry.

“Here baby, let me fix you up,” said the Prince.

“I’m not broken. I just have to let these emotions flow through me so they can evolve away.”

The Prince rolled his eyes and thought, “More New-Age Twaddle-crap.”

J-Wand thought back to when she used to think she was broken and all her friends would try to fix her. She smiled and was glad those days were over.

The Prince tossed the dregs of his wine into the fireplace as he exited the conversation room.

“Twaddle-crap,” she heard him mutter. She admired the way he swaggered when he walked away.

For you those of you who were wondering, the above was what we writers call a slice of life short short. If I made it any longer, one of the characters would have to evolve and grow. I just couldn’t have that.

Chip

(c)2013 Chip Engelmann

Button, Button, Goose

Last night I got into a conversation about being true to your spiritual gifts rather than buttonholing yourself to what you think you should be doing. I was using my own life as an example because, well, I know it better than most. I pointed out how even though I was successful, even good at being a healer, it was ultimately unfulfilling. Coaching followed the same pattern.

Each of us has a unique combination of spiritual gifts. We are builders, teachers, healers, leaders, enablers, organizers, metaphysicians, creators and smart asses. We usually excel at 2-3 of these gifts. No one is like anyone else.

What tickles my spiritual goose is writing, mentoring and making people blow coffee on their keyboards.

Newsletter readers continue here.

I excel at understanding the nature of things. When I was a businessman I could walk into any enterprise and glean how it operated and where the profit came from. It was second nature. I did the same thing as a healer. I understood the metaphysics of how and why a person became sick and was able to convey that information back to the client.

So my strengths are metaphysics and teaching. I like nothing better than to sit and ponder the workings of the Universe. And I do–so much so that I find that I have very few people whom I can talk to that share my passion. I share through writing. My abilities to communicate allow me to create metaphors to explain the virtually unexplainable. If I can make my writing funny so much the better.

Master Channel, Frank Butterfield, once called me an unconscious channel. I’m pretty sure he meant it in a good way, but as long as I can remember, when I think or talk about a subject, it is as if I download information from the Universe. A person I met in a jacuzzi called this claircognizance. I’ve never heard that term before. I’m not even sure it is in the spelling ballpark.

When I write, I also tap into this information source and it in turn, feeds my metaphysical jones. In other words, my job is doing what feels good to me. I laugh out loud when I write. Doing what you love and getting what you want by doing so is a key feature to Life Surfing.

Another question that came out of this conversation was: What is the difference between being a teacher, a coach, and a mentor? On the surface they seem very similar. A teacher imparts knowledge, a coach draws out person’s strategy and creates accountability, and a mentor demonstrates through example and helps the client follow a similar path. Mentoring is the best fit for me for one-on-one work—and I still get to enjoy the high of creating the spiritual space involved in coaching and healing.

Spiritual skills are those skills that seem so normal that you just assume that everyone does these things. It was through trial and error that I figured out that using my innate abilities was not only the most enjoyable way to live, but the most productive as well.

So… What are your spiritual skills and how do you use them to enjoy your experience?

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Chip

(c)2013 Chip Engelmann